I recently read a quote attributed to the Buddah; “We all have 83 problems”.
What the quote is getting at is there is no such thing as not having any problems, and striving for such an impossible state is a great source of frustration for most of us. The 84th problem is we don’t want to have any problems.
We all want to solve our problems. Sometimes we do. Then some other problem comes up and we get angry, or feel cheated, can’t we just have one day where everything is all worked out?
That’s probably not going to happen in this life.
Some problems are nagging, some inconsequential, some are intractable and some are so all consuming we can’t avoid them. We strive to deal with them, and that is the proper course of action, but we must know that something new is going to pop up. It’s life. Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.
Maybe you’re not making enough money so you take a second job but now you’re going to miss your daughters play or your son’s baseball game. You find a way to make the schedule work and then you twist your ankle and are laid up for a week. Your ankle starts to heal and your mom gets sick. While your mom is in the hospital a co-worker is in an accident and you have to step in and help get her work done. The company you work for is rumored to be laying -off staff soon. Do you ever get a break?
Sounds awful huh, I didn’t even get into the really bad stuff. Illness, abandonment, pain, death…it’s all out there, and each and every one of us is going to deal with the really big issues sooner or later.
We rail against the world, he fates, the god or the destiny that deals out these cards. It sure as hell doesn’t feel fair.
What if we accept, in the words of Roseanne Rosannadanna, “It’s always something”. We recognize that we’re NEVER going to be problem free. Never ever, it’s not possible.
As I’ve reflected over the challenges I’ve faced recently I’ve come to a conclusion. Facing up to these challenges, battling these problems, working though the issues seems to me to be the point. We’re here to learn. If everything is hunky dory we won’t learn a thing. Our time here would be wasted. The obstacles we overcome are the source of what wisdom we acquire.
Don’t give up, but don’t have unrealistic expectations. Work on the big stuff and let the little stuff work it out on its own. If you are overwhelmed, go outside and breathe, feel the sun on your skin.
I can just about almost convince myself to believe all this….maybe if I keep working on it I will.